I talk in detail on my youtube channel on how difficult its been for me to lose weight this past year due to some hormone imbalances and It took me FOREVER to figure out the problem. However, Ill keep this post on topic.
Tip one: When you start dating someone focus on yourself and the goals you have set. Although, this person likes you how you are upon meeting you realize its still about YOU and what YOU want for your self.
- In the past I've never compromised myself or changed my likes or dislikes for a person. But I have allowed myself to forget about the goals I had set for myself or fall of track with what I was doing prior to meeting that person. So don't become so consumed with what THEY are doing and make sure you are still doing what makes you feel best.
Tip two: Express your eating habits to the person you're with and make sure they understand.
- From my experience the men I have previously dated don't eat healthy ever. and don't like healthy food. Men and women have different bodies a man can eat whatever he wants, work out and never gain a pound. Women.. well some of us can gain 10 pounds in a week. Set boundaries for how many times you go out to eat a month. I've never lived with a significant other before, but if you're in control of the kitchen and cooking give him a designated spot for his snacks.. a SMALL spot and have your lunch and dinner ready. If he understands you're serious and you are sticking to your habit he'll respect and encourage it. (I'm grateful to have that now)
Tip three: Have a list of place you absolutely WILL NOT EAT just so your partner knows.
- for me I will not eat any fast food at all. If it has a drive through there is no compromise.
Tip four: Implement a workout system together, share your progress and goals with one another.
- I've found that expressing my goals in a relationship helps the person get on board with you. Maybe they won't eat salads for dinner with you but they'll encourage you to keep it up! Its also a way to bond, nothing is better than the person you're with noticing a positive change in you.
Tip five: Always always always want to make a healthy change to a healthier lifestyle for yourself. It should never be about the other person.
- I use to stress so much if I was getting too big for someone or if I could be more attractive. Now I just look at myself and say "I can do better, I want better." I CAN and I WANT are the key words.
In the end your significant other will appreciate the change in confidence. If you aren't happy with yourself I feel that it could cause unnecessary problems in a relationship. I'm speaking for myself when I say you look in the mirror and don't even like yourself that causes you to feel ugly, unwanted, unworthy and those are such negative feelings to have. Having confidence in your body and overall appearance with lead to dressing better, feeling better, knowing you're worthy and loved.
I can touch base more on my yoyo dieting experiences in the past and losing weight.
xo.
- Vanessa
